hegelian_dialectics

burst out!!!!

2009-07-06T03:23:00.000-07:00

nakakasama ng loob naman...1 week na ang lumipas, pagsisinungalingan mo ba ang pagkakasakit ng isang kapamilya para sa isang cash advance kung saan pinagpiprisinta pa ng katibayan na may mga gamot nga na kailangang bilhin. siyempre pa, dahil mayroon ka naman, bibigyan mo. aba, at tila hindi pa rin naniwala...hanggang sa pinirmahan na rin...

salamat sa dati kong bosing...

sana ito na ang huling pagkakataon na hihingi ako ng pabor sa kumpanyang ito...

nakakasama lang ng loob...despite of being too devoted to contribute something for the company, you don't file overtime...still for a meager amount of P3,000 pagdadamutan at paghihinalaan ka pa...grabe...

emosyon lamang ito...buti na lang...buti na lang hindi ko na pinapatulan ang emosyon...mas maganda na rin ang ganito...ito ang gusto nilang tao - manhid, walang emosyon...

be careful with what you wish for...might just get...

2007-09-17T08:23:00.000-07:00

indeed, be careful because sometimes fate plays with our lives...

harharhar!!!

2007-08-14T06:09:00.000-07:00

tarantado na nga ginusto pa. ewan ko ba minsan baliktad talaga ang reasoning ng tao...haay!!!

way back into love

2007-06-07T05:57:00.000-07:00

Various Artists Lyrics

kupal

2007-02-27T00:31:00.000-08:00

minsan talaga pag umandar ang kakupalan...haay...

How To Eliminate Bad Habits

2007-02-12T11:15:00.000-08:00

How To Eliminate Bad Habits
By: Philip Shapiro

The thought manifests as word;
The word manifests as deed;
The deed develops into habit;
And habit hardens into character.
So watch the thought and its ways with care,
And let it spring from love
Born out of concern for all beings.

The Buddha
A cocaine addict, a working person raising a family, a seeker practicing meditation and service, and a highly conscious sage all have the same motivation: the core drive. We all want avoidance of suffering and permanent Love, peace, and safety. What separates us is our habits. Habits rule destiny. Our life is a sequence of habits that determine our course and evolution.

We all have a mix of good and bad habits. Bad habits cause untold suffering. Good habits serve us in the cause of our liberation. To understand how we got where we are and how to change direction, we need to understand the formation and transformation of habits. The seeker will need to release the energy captured by bad habits and transfer this power to liberating good habits.

Any pattern of thought or action repeated many times results in a habit with a corresponding neurosignature, or brain groove. The brain is composed of approximately 100 billion cells, called neurons. A brain groove is a series of interconnected neurons that carry the thought patterns of a particular habit. Attention feeds the habit. When we give our attention to a habit, we activate the brain groove, releasing the thoughts, desires, and actions related to that habit.

The good news is that the brain is malleable. We can change our thoughts and behavior by recruiting new cells to form new brain grooves. Every thought and action is recorded within the interconnected nerve cells, and each repetition adds new depth to the brain groove. If we repeat a thought and action enough times, a habit is formed. Continued repetition strengthens the power of the habit. Inattention and lack of repetition weakens the power of the habit. These principles apply to the formation of both good and bad habits. Positive thoughts and actions create good habits. Negative thoughts and actions create harmful habits.

We can use these principles to eliminate and replace bad habits with good ones. We can gradually starve bad habits to death by not giving them our attention. As we pay more attention to forming a good habit, the new brain groove slowly gains power. Eventually, the new positive brain groove dominates the negative groove, and good habits drive out the bad. Without this transformation, spiritual growth is impossible.

When we are assigned painful problems in the school of life, we need to do the homework. All too often, however, we play hooky by escaping into the pleasures of a bad habit. If we repeat this behavior, at some point we get addicted. We end up with the original problem and a host of additional difficulties associated with addiction. Addiction leads to wild emotions, mental storms, paranoia, rage, humiliation, chaotic relationships, job loss, disease, and death. We can avoid this by doing our homework, by learning how to be good pain managers.

Learning how to manage our suffering is critical on the spiritual path. However, most of us slide down the path of bad habits early in our lives in our attempt to avoid pain.
Bad habits include smoking, use of drugs or alcohol, excessive eating, compulsive gambling, compulsive shopping, addiction to the internet, computer or television, addiction to sex, money, fame, work, activity, power, or dependency on others at the expense of independence and individuality (a condition known as codependency or relationship addiction). Although bad habits are pleasurable in the beginning, their eventual evolution into emptiness and torment is inevitable as they force us to act in ways contrary to our true nature. We want to express Love, compassion, kindness, patience, and courage.
To begin the process of transforming bad habits to spiritual power, we must recognize that the pain of the bad habit is worse than the pain of healing. Cultivating good habits is difficult, but it is more difficult to maintain bad habits.

The time to create these positive habits is now. Every time we repeat a thought or action of a bad habit, it maintains or gains power.

Procrastination weakens our will to the point that we think we cannot change. Before we know it, the habit has locked us in a prison of our own making. We may not even know if a habit already has enough power to imprison us for decades: we only discover its power when one day we try to stop it and find out we cannot.

Assume a virtue if you have it not.
Refrain tonight,
And that shall lend a kind of easiness
To the next abstinence, the next more easy;
For use almost can change the stamp of nature,
And either lodge the devil or throw him out
With wondrous potency.

Shakespeare, Hamlet

Following is a technique for replacing bad habits with good, spiritual habits:

1. Introspection
2. Avoid everything associated with the bad habit
3. Constructive meaningful activities

1. INTROSPECTION
Make a list of the habits you would like to change. Examples of bad habits include smoking, substance abuse, gambling, compulsive eating, addiction to sex, computers, money, power, work, and codependency or addiction to people.

2. AVOID EVERYTHING ASSOCIATED WITH THE BAD HABIT
People, environment, routines, and our own thoughts are the breath that gives life to the brain groove of a bad habit. With continued stimulation, a bad habit grows, our will weakens, and we slide off the spiritual path. However, the neurocircuit for the bad habit remains dormant in the subconscious if we give it no thought or attention. We can gain power over a bad habit by avoiding exposure to everything associated with it. Stay away from the negative environment, people, and actions that supported the habit, until the new brain groove is strong. Avoid thinking about the bad habit as much as possible. We are subject to craving in an instant, if not careful. Even a passing thought or image of the negative habit can awaken desire. The more we let the idea play in our minds, the more at risk we are of recurrent addiction. Starve the bad habit to death by inattention.

3. ENGAGE IN CONSTRUCTIVE MEANINGFUL ACTIVITIES
Make a list of activities related to your work, chores, relationships, leisure, recreation, hobbies, and self–nurturance. These activities are a part of your repertoire of positive habits. You can use these activities to ward off the thoughts and impulses related to your bad habits. Such a list might include playing and watching sports, listening to or playing music, television, the Internet, movies, reading, writing, studying, exercise, arts and crafts, board games, crossword or jigsaw puzzles, gardening, paying bills, shopping, cooking, cleaning, taking a nap, getting a massage, and so on.
Keep feeding the positive habit to make it stronger and starving the negative habit to make it weaker. Give the best of your effort, concentration, and attention to the new habit until it takes over and becomes a natural, effortless, and automatic part of your repertoire. Keep battling and you will win. Craving ceases. Peace and strength deepen. Life becomes easier and more natural.

AFFIRMATIONS

I can eliminate any bad habit.

I expand my will power through practice.

With my expanded will power, I escape from bad habits.

One by one, I eliminate all bad habits.

Nothing can stand in my way.

Nothing can touch my will.

About the Author:

Dr. Philip Shaprio is author of Healing Power: Ten Steps to Pain Management and Spiritual Evolution, and the founder of the Northwest Institute for Healing Power (www.philipshapiro.com) He is a psychiatrist and a long–time practicioner of yoga meditation.
Email: Web Site: Institute for Healing Power

Posted: 01/12/06

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passion over practical needs

2006-09-28T13:14:00.000-07:00

i almost fell in the pit again but i was able to guard myself from further downfall - self preservation

i am about to leave the portal of my dreams and about to enter a world far from what i have always dreamed of

i am compromising my passion for a practically more rewarding career, a decision that took me months of thinking

and i decided to give it a go - because of the better pay, benefits that my first love job couldn't offer

in this world, you can only live your passion if you are rich, lucky enough to be boss' pet and persistent despite the poor labor practice

that's why im giving it up... even if i truly love what i was doing. because sometimes the things you love doing would not necessarily satisfy one's being. we have various needs and passion does not guarantee to supply one with food, shelter and clothing.

napocor tower story

2006-09-25T06:31:00.000-07:00

one of the dilemmas when you're in tv industry - news gathering in this respect, aside from being the first to know and broadcast it exclusively, is also being able to get good and action-packed video; but what if there's a life at stake? what are we going to do then?

that was exactly what abs cbn got for the retarded kid story who went up the napocor tower in san jose, del monte, bulacan. they were the first to know and broadcast it - rich video of the lens waiting for some action to happen, may it be the kid to jump from the tower or fall from there; but then a twist came, some drunk barangay councilor fired a gun pointing to the "pasaway kid" who thinks that the kid should be shot since the kid is an abnormal. but what really bothered me while i was watching their segment for that, how did even one member of the news team to do something considering the brgy councilor even went to the news team to announce that he's going to shoot the kid, how come he was not prevented from doing so? how come it lasted that long that people around there were not able to devise a way of saving the kid? i can imagine how long the lenses of the cameraman soaked itself long enough taking a video of kid while sitting on the rails, dancing on the tower, etc. does this mean that the scope of social responsibility of media does not include giving utmost importance on individual's?

on one hand, the parent's responsibility also should not be taken for granted here, considering the kid is mentally-challenged; they're also to blame for letting the kid out of their sight when they should have been giving utmost attention to the kids' needs.

however, we cannot deny the fact that the coverage was foul.

random thoughts....

2006-08-07T04:46:00.000-07:00

"kase daw nagbabasa lang, wala silang ibang makuha, kaya ayaw nila sa iyo"

unang pagkakataong dumalo sa kanilang storycon...unang beses ko na ginawa iyon...ipinaliwanag naman sa kanila...perpekto ka kasi reyna...kaya pala reyna...

ganun ba ang reyna? perpekto? hindi ako naniniwala. reyna ka nga pero tao ka pa rin pangalan mo lang ang reyna. pasensya na.

sometimes life is fair...sometimes it's unfair

2006-07-18T10:16:00.000-07:00

the every hour struggle in the newsroom - chasing the news - especially the breaking ones; and then chasing the personalities.

people come to office at various shifts - but the core of gathering the news has a pool of people who remains awake to serve the network... but are they compensated of their worth?

to be continued.................

angst aired...

2006-07-05T02:32:00.000-07:00

it saddens me that you have not been doing efforts at least to say "hi" to me and i had no idea for your sudden cold treatment. i sent numerous offline messages but no replies. fine, i thought you might be really busy. so on the 4th of July at exactly 1:02am, philippine time i texted you. still i felt i was taken for granted, coz there was no reply. and at 5:23am, philippine time - i received this annoying message from some erica luna - and who the hell is that? my gosh, it was a ridiculous idea to commune with me, like hello?! and how the hell was she able to get my precious number that i only give to important people. i felt insulted that my privacy wasn't respected.

i thought you knew me already, i was wrong. but you know what if indeed you wanted to irritate me, and you wish end it all between us, you just have to tell me "it's over" - that mere two words is enough than have some people bug me at 5 in the morning and act as if you're the only man alive we ought to chase for the rest of our lives. "Ang guwapo mo, grabe!" it's not my thing kase explaining myself to nobody about the "thing" that we have.

i expected a creative way. and if you might excuse, i'd like to apologize if i offended you in one way or another that might have caused you to act that way.

i am open for your explanation. but as i told you if you want something, you just have to ask and tell me.

au re voir.

saciated...hopeless...

2006-07-04T04:49:00.000-07:00

i feel so hopeless now, it seems that the cosmic elements does not conspire to ease my difficulties and let the good tidings rain. sometimes i want to give up the fight, and die instead. since i am ready to die anytime.

i am getting tired of everything... can i just severe my life? but this is not mine i believe so. i just hope i can still survive this feat.

i am also getting tired of r_m_ ; i am pissed off of his attitude of taking me for granted without any signs if he is still alive.

grr.

irritated...

feeling hopeless...

literati

2006-06-21T10:23:00.000-07:00

a letter sent to some One

hi!

this letter is my way of summing up what i have been up to since we made the pact to be together.

when i decided to give it a go - i know what i was doing and i was sure i wanted it. i know it may sound a bit peculiar considering the proximity factor - that is vital to any relationship; but anyhow, we managed to work it out even through chat, and phone calls. it's even peculiar because we really haven't met personally and it sounds really funny though. for one we're living in this information age where everything is possible so this may not sound really odd.

i was convinced to get on it though i barely have known you, well, except for those correspondence we used to have :) i mean, i may have trusted you that easily because i can sense the sincere persona that you may have reflected on our virtual correspondence (i hope in reality, indeed it is true). i do believe so :) i just hope that what i believe in are true. hehehe.

but, know what, i also believe in the intervention of some sort of cosmic connection between us - maybe there has to be a reason for this circumstance to exist.

it all happened so fast yet a part of me believed that maybe there was something else that existed between us. it was not a mere whirlwind thing for it has exemplified an extraordinary sigh of relief in this jaded wall i once built for myself to keep me from further pain and disappointments. i have always shield my self from being infected by the virus of lower class beings, because i believed that to have oneself subjected to one’s lower faculties is a sign of being a lower class being. To fall in love is subjecting oneself to one of the lower faculties, the heart. when i met you at the chat room, i had no idea who you really are, how do you look like, and stuffs that a decent individual would demand before one agree to have a relationship. i mean i was not really looking for somebody for i was just having fun being anyone i want to be, especially that we’re in a virtual world. in your case, i was in the mood of being the other real me, so we chatted pretty well. so you came, seemed to be a harmless human being whose intentions seem unscathed. you were nice to me, that’s why from that time on, i decided to be open to whatever possibility that the moment can offer. to my surprise, it all came unexpected, for in a matter of days; we professed our exclusivity oath with each other. our relationship was no ordinary kind though i believe this is based on what we truly felt for each other. for a time, i was asking myself, what was the strange feeling all about, yet to no avail. i cannot rationalize the feelings i have. but i'm sure; it’s not something to be afraid of (I hope, that was the signal i got). of course i am ready to get into the plunge, i mean i wanted a real and serious relationship because i felt i needed to traverse the other side of life behind my wall. though, at first i was scared, i mean, i will be subjecting myself to one of my lower faculties, of course it entails pain. some abstract words that caused too much happiness are the ones that caused too much pain. But still, if there is a way to get off the excruciating pain, i’ll choose that path. in matters of love i don’t feel like being a masochist. frankly, even before i woke up from the spell of the fairytale pop culture, i was not in good terms with my emotions. i’ve always tended to play with it, even when it comes to relationship. i can always make face that i am doing all right yet, at the back of it, i am irritated; or i can pretend i am happy but in reality i am not.
but these past days, there is something i don't know that confronts me. may be the reason was that, “i’m happy.”

And i want you to know that. 'till here. i feel for you.

- hehe, censia ka na sinipag ako e :)

me

ps. can i call you honey :)

confused but sure

2006-06-20T11:55:00.000-07:00

ewan ko ba siguro dahil siguro sa dami ng problema kaya ako nalilito ng konti sa mga bagay-bagay.

bagamat natutuwa naman ako sa mga dating escapades ko, kahit may kulang. at may ongoing long distance relationship ako na alam ko na gusto ko naman pero, parang nagsasawa ako kasi masyadong lame - parang walang buhay. baka magkatotoo ang sinabi niya kanina na baka magsawa ako sa ganitong set up namin. ganito pala ang long-distance relationship, pag wala talaga mag-e-effort, kung walang magco-compromise, walang mangyayari sa relasyon, baka maitapon lang.

tapos pareho pa kaming busy sa aming karera. mahirap talaga pala ang ganito.

hindi ko pa naman alam kung hanggang saan ang pwedeng maabot nitong relationship adventure ko, sisikapin kong i-work out dahil baka naman manghinayang ako. licensed architect pa naman siya. sa palagay ko may rason kung bakit kami nagtagpo at tuluyang naging magkasintahan.

sige lang, hindi naman natatapos ang pakikibaka sa buhay.

wish ko lang, sana masolusyunan na ang mga suliranin ko.

update on date adventures

2006-06-20T04:39:00.000-07:00

17 hrs ago i met up with the nightmare date i previously had and my gosh i learned that i was turned upside down by the girl who was in love with him. it turned out that she said so many bad things against the key which i allegedly said. of course the guy felt bad but he can't help coming back to me, maybe because he has not scored on me yet - mystery remains...hahaha

and i am not in the mood to spoil the msytery - let him live with that mystery.

on one hand, i was glad to have known his past why he became what he is now - but i do not fully agree with what he has done - especially the rigodon de honor of women, flings, and sex partners. but well, it was him. at least i was able to know that side of him.

he seemed a good man in a way, because i happened to meet his bestfriend who he had known since kindergarten and shared to me their pasts. i have come to understand him in a way but still i am not convinced why he did something really bad to himself.

well, maybe he's just enjoying my company and he also has some other motives why he continues his connection with me. maybe use me because i'm with the media, or for his satisfaction which is not going to happen though :)

taking the risk

2006-06-18T08:37:00.000-07:00

once again banking on a risky relationship with a total stranger(s). they seem nice and well but i can sense how risky the matter is.

almost 5 months after the latest relationship ended - i was able to enter into one long distance relationship with a long time pal and another relationship with a person just nearby. but the long distance relationship has more weight than the near one because i can sense a good future with him while the near one seems a meantime thing - not for a long term.

just in time that i am slowly realigning my views in life, i am also playing with fire.

it was my choice but then again, at one time or another i am examining myself, "is it really me doing all those stuffs?" or is it the other "me?"

i may sound schizo but there are really two personalities playing up on me everytime i get into petty troubles with men.

i do not necessarily enjoy it but i can answer to it should be reprimanded, i know pretty well that it's my choice.

i brought myself into this soon-to-be-mess and well, whatever, i've got to be ready for all the consequences that may come along.

bumalik na siya......

2006-06-15T09:37:00.000-07:00

bumalik na si superman!

dati ang ang buong akala ko hindi ko masyadong gusto si superman - bagamat sinusundan ko lagi ang lois and clark dati, lalo na ang smallville. kaya hindi ko ito dati inaamin kasi isang taga-kanluran kasi ang imahen ni superman - para bang malabo niyang ipagtanggol ang maliliit na bansa sa asya. pero may mga pagtatanghal naman siya kung saan nagliligtas rin siya ng ibang lahi.

pero, ganun pa rin - ang kanyang itsura ay imahen ng isang taga-kanluran. siya ay maputi, matipuno at ingles ang lenguahe. inampon pa nga siya ng amerika para ipangalandakan sa mundo - na kami ang inyong tagapagligtas!

pero nang mapagtanto ko ang pinagmulan ni superman - mula pala siya sa ibang planeta, isa pala siyang alien. at ibig sabihin ang magliligtas sa mundo ay isang dayuhan - isang alien. pero siyempre si superman ay isang kathang-isip lamang, ngunit kung iisipin nating mabuti may ibig itong ipahiwatig sa "great scheme of things."

siguro nga wala sa mundong ito ang "superman."

i'm going to take it as a challenge

2006-06-12T07:46:00.000-07:00

it was a great opportunity for me when i was accepted at the news but some people are so "whatever" - they won't stop pulling me down. i really don't know why they give a damn on me - i am such an ordinary individual. and worse these people have positions. why?why?why?

am i a threat? am i the kind who's gonna climb up the managerial position? and they are afraid of that? it would take years and i might not even be able to reach it, what if i suddenly change my mind and leave the country? i mean, a lot of things can happen. why are these people care so much where i go. can't they just leave me alone?

or, they are so pissed off that i was able to land a position at the news desk even if they kicked me out. one friend who used to be my partner at their program told me, maybe their ego was hurt because it was like a slap in their face that i'm still here and at the news.

i just wish they stop bugging me. i am no special and i will never rob them off their position. never.

some silly thoughts.....

2006-06-01T10:56:00.000-07:00

i am beginning to abhore men - not that some men did something really bad on me - i just witness a hell lot of them and it really pissed me off.

i am afraid that one day i will hate them. actually there was one time that i wanted to put a stop in establishing a relationship with them - i mean they can be really good as friends but not as a partner.

to be continued.........................

it's about men...true and funny

2006-05-31T06:38:00.000-07:00

Oprah wrote this about men...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant tobe.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with her, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the ending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

ceremony

2006-05-27T20:51:00.000-07:00

june is fast approaching - the month where usually couples tied their knot. just this week, i have an officemate who got married which i failed to witness :(. i wanted to go, to see how she is, how she feels, how she looks like, etc. - but the my work deterred me from attending it.

i have always loved witnessing wedding ceremonies - especially of the people i know. it feels good to know they bravely took the decision to get tied even if it doesn't necessarily promised a happily ever after life, still they choose to take the risk.

i wish them the best.

about to take the plunge?

2006-05-25T04:31:00.000-07:00

seems she already got over it - rather, she easily got over the heartaches - in a little less than a week, she entered the worthless relationship and eventually neglect it also. she went into unstoppable dating adventures - even met the most promiscuous guy he ever dated in her whole dating life but resorted to putting a stop in their connection.

she got tired of the dating game. now a former online friend is playing an active role in her life; proposing if they can be together as boyfriend and girlfriend. indeed, it seemed flattering for her, but then again sh is afraid to trust men so easily - she'd been hurt and taken for granted - but she's to blamed as well of what happened to her past near-perfect relationship. however, inspite of such circumstance, she's not closing doors. she's open to whatever possibilities that life may offer. but then again, still she finds it hard to trust men.

she will learn someday.

penny things

2006-05-24T09:36:00.000-07:00

sometimes when i'm bored and confused i do crazy things... but one thing is for sure, i do not let myself loose my sanity.

i can be totally crazy, but still i remain aware that i should still take care of myself and not let it fall in deep excavation.

my date adventures

2006-05-22T04:12:00.000-07:00

i finally met up with an online friend last night, not really a date - more of a friendly date. he was cool, gentleman, seems to be a mature man - and gosh, he looks like exactly my ex.

here it goes, he fetched me at my office, then, we went to one bar to another then, meet some his friends. then we drink up at some bar nearby my place and office. after tha we went to his place.

the other girl was with us, then, alright, we drink again at his place - i was sensing something like "threesome" but i acted as if really drunk and asleep - only to find out two people doing sex.

the early morning came and he was flirting with me. at first i was dancing with his tune but i sensed from the other girl that she really likes the guy - so i said to myself - this is the red light sign - i should stop.

only to find out that they indeed are together but because the guy wanted to score on me - he told me lies like, he has no girlfriend, he's on for dating, he's not yet ready for commitment, etc.

men, they really are jerk.

and more so, this guy whispered to me that the girl who arrived was a former sex partner - my gosh! only to know it was his girlfriend. and he continuously brag about all his sexcapades with 200 plus women.

so pathetic.

i pity him. i pity more his girlfriend who eventually became my friend.

development and equity

2006-05-18T02:06:00.000-07:00

DEVELOPMENT WITH EQUITY

Inequality remains to be the biggest obstacle to the country’s development according to World Bank director for the Philippines Joachim Von Amsberg – thus we cannot say that the country has achieved Development with Equity.

Equity is defined in terms of two basic principles. The first is equal opportunities: that a person’s life achievements should be determined primarily by his or her talents and efforts, rather than by pre-determined circumstances such as race, gender, social or family background. The second principle is the avoidance of deprivation in outcomes, particularly in health, education and consumption level.

The world development report 2006 encapsulates the very situation of the Philippines – the rampant inequality in terms of income, assets and opportunities. Though the government is continuously creating jobs, yet, the qualified Filipino workers are still small thus leaving a greater number still unemployed.
The labor force population in January 2006 was registered at 35.2 million, this translates to a labor force participation rate (LFPR) of 63.8 percent. The total employment in January 2006 was 32.4 million, which results to national employment rate of 91.9 percent. Now the total unemployed persons numbered 2.8 million in January 2006, which translates to an unemployment rate of 8.1 percent. The incidence of underemployment went up to 21.3 percent in January 2006 from 16.1 percent a year ago.(NSCB).
In terms of income, even if there are about 63.8% unemployed Filipinos, they have meager income, not enough to sustain their needs. And because they have low income, they are remains unable to upgrade whatever assets they have, that is if they have one. It still remains that whoever has the resources, s/he is the one who can afford to acquire new assets, or properties that they can sell in times of need. Indeed it is difficult to attain development with equity in a country like our. However there’s a way to attain this.
In my point of view, maybe our country has to realign its priorities in terms of implementing economic and political reforms.
There is a great need for new policies that would address the country’s need to attain development with equity. The present government has to invest in people – this does not just mean about manpower or labor force, rather it includes especially the early childhood nutrition and development which translates to various issues – food security, sound population policy and better health services. Our country’s countryside still lacks hospitals, health workers, etc. Investment in people also includes quality education services – this does not just mean their college education but their early years in school because it is the basic foundation of every Filipino worker. The far flung areas of the countries still lack schools because the concentration remains in the center, there still are neglected areas and the government has to address this. Also it is important that the high school years until the college education are given utmost attention ensuring that the graduates are equipped with proper education and training in their field. It is a common reality that there maybe a hundred thousands graduates every year but not even 80% are hired because they fail to meet the standards of the company they are applying for even if it is in line with course. Also to consider providing safety nets to insure vulnerable groups from shocks especially because there are groups that needs such attention in cases of war, tragedies – since the country is infested with these kinds of atrocities and calamities; as well abuse cases on women and children.
There is also a need for expansion of access to justice, land, and economic infrastructure such as roads, power, water, sanitation and telecommunications – the basic infrastructures literally and figuratively. People need to be provided with proper justice thus, they should be taught with the law – they should know the law, to know their basic rights. They should also be provided with quality infrastructures not just a kind of road that needs to be repaired after months. The basic services for the people in the country should be good as well if not perfect.
Furthermore, there is also a need for a policy that promote fairness in financial, labor, and product markets, so that poor people have easier access to credit and jobs, and are not discriminated against in any market. In fairness to the present government, PGMA is extending her way to implement programs for poor people to have easier access to credit, but there is still a need for the more sound information dissemination among this group so they can avail of these opportunities and they should be taught as well how to manage it.
Equity in the international arena is also a central concern, and can play a powerful complementary role to domestic action. In a globally interconnected world, leveling the international playing fields, both economically and politically, will help domestic efforts to combine equity with efficiency and growth.

In my view, equity and economic efficiency as well as growth are complementary in the long run to reduce the poverty prevalence - together with the interdependence between the economic and political dimensions of development it also reinforces the importance of empowerment among people who resides in the country.

The country can still meet development with equity so long as the leaders aim for it and do the necessary policies to address the country’s problems not just their personal interests.

my day that never was

2006-05-15T03:29:00.000-07:00

it's my birthday today, another year has passed and yet i still am at the ladder, climbing to the zenith of my dreams.

in a way, i remained really blessed because i have such a great mom, great dad, great sisters - last year, i had great friends now they no longer are :( some things really change. at least, i have learned now that sometimes it is not healthy to board with friends - not even with your closest ones. because even if you give all your best efforts - all your patience, sometimes there are things that you can no longer contain, maybe some of them are not really the "friends" we thought they are. too much for sad thoughts - maybe, time has finally come that we have to separate lives.

i haven't got my birthday wish yet. i hope i can have it before the month ends. i want to finally transfer to the condo and pay all my debts.

i hope. i pray.

the man

2006-05-12T11:56:00.000-07:00

NATE BERCUS - my ideal man. i couldn't get pass through my obsession of nate for now - i really like him. i wish he has a clone here in our thir world land.

pissed off of myself

2006-05-12T08:19:00.000-07:00

i am pissed off of myself because i still am longing for the impossible - my formerexcess(not the latest ex) and i hate it! i hate myself for being such a fool over him because he is attached...eeeww. but he is so yummy, argh...i hate me...i hate me...life sucks sometimes.

scholarship in call center

2006-04-27T06:40:00.000-07:00

scholarship in call center - from dean dela paz's column

i came across dela paz's column last april 27 in businessworld. somehow at one point or another, i seem to agree with dela paz's argument about how the government has been putting great emphasis in the call center industry - even giving support in programs that will enhance the student's, more so, worker's telemaketing abilities. thus, deteriorating their abilities on more important, relevant subject that would not only guarantee them with better career but sustainable one, that will not just answer to immediate needs. but then again, the government is more focus on such kind of solution - what the government pushes are the immediate yet not a sustainable solution to the needs of the people - which is also a practical way of easing the problem but not necessarily eradicating it.

we would understand why this kind of response to arising problem, time runs so fast nowadays that the what seems to be important is to give immediate solution to the problem. but they don't realize how much burden that the people are about to face in the future - what if this industry is no longer in boom? where would this speaking- american/british english- accent agent will go. will they be inept to lead the country? will they be able to provide solution to the deteriorating infrastructures? will they be able to heal the sick? will they stay there answering calls or marketing products they have not even touched and tried?

of course, that kind of job on one hand transcend the boundaries of age, gender, race, etc. but is it a worthwhile endeavor to grow and mature as an individual? to be skilled enough in battling with the challenges of the years to come?

indeed, the call center industry has been a source of big revenues for the government, but until when? we have to be realistic and sound in terms of setting out priorities to attain development. this country will not move forward if we will only hone telemarketers, and telephone operators. development is not defined by a mere increase in revenues, more jobs - it's about equity in all aspects - generation of sustainable jobs, infastructure, good governance, and quality life.

confused

2006-04-19T09:26:00.000-07:00

what got into me... i don't know

a li'l less than a week after our break up, i went back to a happy world again... and in less than a month, i found a new-old relationship - had it rekindle once again

frankly, i really don't what got into me, when i said yes last night. was it some kind of defense mechanism, that i easily jumped into another relationship, i'm a little bit guilty of doing so,

but what can i do? i am flattered by the attention he's throwin' on me, it felt great to be admired as if i'm the only living creature on earth, i long such kind of attention but not really necessary,

i am just a bit confused because, i am not entirely into it. i mean, i kinda' like him but i don't like him as much as i liked my other exes like tope, soren, etc. i don't know how things will go about between us. i hope the relationship will work out fine.

at one point or another, i wanted to paint a fairly new outlook on relationship - since i beleived that relationship have expiry dates, i plan to have them last only for six months then shut them off - enjoy the time, no hang ups, no pretentions, give it a 100% shot but end it right after a six months duration, make it short but sweet......

but i really don't know, maybe i just need to set my spirit free.... no deadlines... it's simplier i guess... i don't know... anyway, i have no plans of getting tied so, fine, get it on...enjoy life...

lost ... and found!

2005-11-07T05:40:00.000-08:00

maybe 'news' was really my personal legend. i hope i can stay long there... i hope.

broke...

2005-07-31T16:25:00.000-07:00

i'm broke but i'm happy
i'm poor but i'm kind
but im not healthy....

'hope it'll be granted!
please please please...

funny hahaha

back to senses

2005-07-26T16:13:00.000-07:00

blunders should melt....

i have to get back to my senses....

i should not just try - i should strive for excellence!

...just one of the few realization i had during my meditating moments when i had a break. i failed from some of my commitments because i played easy-go-lucky style. i thought i can deliver things by just being such. i was mistaken. i have to make significant changes in my life. i need not be perfectionist but at least strive for almost perfection level. i have to do it becuase i am working with great people. i should be.

gotcha!

blunders...

2005-06-23T17:04:00.000-07:00

when it rains, it pours...

this is how my blunders came...
as well as my blessings...
sometimes, it pinch to my senses...
maybe, i'm experiencing karma...
because sometimes, i can be real bitchy to others...

well, i should change... i have to...