it's about men...true and funny

Oprah wrote this about men...

If a man wants you, nothing can keep him away.
If he doesn't want you, nothing can make him stay.
Stop making excuses for a man and his behavior.
Allow your intuition (or spirit) to save you from heartache.
Stop trying to change yourself for a relationship that's not meant tobe.
Slower is better.
Never live your life for a man before you find what makes you truly happy.
If a relationship ends because the man was not treating you as you deserve then heck no, you can't "be friends".
A friend wouldn't mistreat a friend.
Don't settle.
If you feel like he is stringing you along, then he probably is.
Don't stay because you think "it will get better." You'll be mad at yourself a year later for staying when things are not better.
The only person you can control in a relationship is you.
Avoid men who've got a bunch of children by a bunch of different women.
He didn't marry them when he got them pregnant, why would he treat you any differently? Always have your own set of friends separate from his.
Maintain boundaries in how a guy treats you.
If something bothers you, speak up.
Never let a man know everything.
He will use it against you later.
You cannot change a man's behavior.
Change comes from within.
Don't EVER make him feel he is more important than you are...even if he has more education or in a better job. Do not make him into a quasi-god. He is a man, nothing more nothing less.
Never let a man define who you are.
Never borrow someone else's man.
If he cheated with her, he'll cheat on you.
A man will only treat you the way you ALLOW him to treat you.
All men are NOT dogs.
You should not be the one doing all the ending...compromise is a two way street. You need time to heal between relationships...there is nothing cute about baggage...Deal with your issues before pursuing a new relationship. You should never look for someone to COMPLETE you... a relationship consists of two WHOLE individuals... look for someone complimentary...not supplementary.
Dating is fun...even if he doesn't turn out to be Mr. Right.
Make him miss you sometimes... when a man always know where you are and you're always readily available to him - he takes it for granted.
Never move into his mother's house.
Never co-sign for a man.
Don't fully commit to a man who doesn't give you everything that you need.

Share this with other women and men (just so they know)...You'll make someone smile, another rethink her choices, and another woman prepare.

ceremony

june is fast approaching - the month where usually couples tied their knot. just this week, i have an officemate who got married which i failed to witness :(. i wanted to go, to see how she is, how she feels, how she looks like, etc. - but the my work deterred me from attending it.

i have always loved witnessing wedding ceremonies - especially of the people i know. it feels good to know they bravely took the decision to get tied even if it doesn't necessarily promised a happily ever after life, still they choose to take the risk.

i wish them the best.

about to take the plunge?

seems she already got over it - rather, she easily got over the heartaches - in a little less than a week, she entered the worthless relationship and eventually neglect it also. she went into unstoppable dating adventures - even met the most promiscuous guy he ever dated in her whole dating life but resorted to putting a stop in their connection.

she got tired of the dating game. now a former online friend is playing an active role in her life; proposing if they can be together as boyfriend and girlfriend. indeed, it seemed flattering for her, but then again sh is afraid to trust men so easily - she'd been hurt and taken for granted - but she's to blamed as well of what happened to her past near-perfect relationship. however, inspite of such circumstance, she's not closing doors. she's open to whatever possibilities that life may offer. but then again, still she finds it hard to trust men.

she will learn someday.

penny things

sometimes when i'm bored and confused i do crazy things... but one thing is for sure, i do not let myself loose my sanity.

i can be totally crazy, but still i remain aware that i should still take care of myself and not let it fall in deep excavation.

my date adventures

i finally met up with an online friend last night, not really a date - more of a friendly date. he was cool, gentleman, seems to be a mature man - and gosh, he looks like exactly my ex.

here it goes, he fetched me at my office, then, we went to one bar to another then, meet some his friends. then we drink up at some bar nearby my place and office. after tha we went to his place.

the other girl was with us, then, alright, we drink again at his place - i was sensing something like "threesome" but i acted as if really drunk and asleep - only to find out two people doing sex.

the early morning came and he was flirting with me. at first i was dancing with his tune but i sensed from the other girl that she really likes the guy - so i said to myself - this is the red light sign - i should stop.

only to find out that they indeed are together but because the guy wanted to score on me - he told me lies like, he has no girlfriend, he's on for dating, he's not yet ready for commitment, etc.

men, they really are jerk.

and more so, this guy whispered to me that the girl who arrived was a former sex partner - my gosh! only to know it was his girlfriend. and he continuously brag about all his sexcapades with 200 plus women.

so pathetic.

i pity him. i pity more his girlfriend who eventually became my friend.

development and equity

DEVELOPMENT WITH EQUITY

Inequality remains to be the biggest obstacle to the country’s development according to World Bank director for the Philippines Joachim Von Amsberg – thus we cannot say that the country has achieved Development with Equity.

Equity is defined in terms of two basic principles. The first is equal opportunities: that a person’s life achievements should be determined primarily by his or her talents and efforts, rather than by pre-determined circumstances such as race, gender, social or family background. The second principle is the avoidance of deprivation in outcomes, particularly in health, education and consumption level.

The world development report 2006 encapsulates the very situation of the Philippines – the rampant inequality in terms of income, assets and opportunities. Though the government is continuously creating jobs, yet, the qualified Filipino workers are still small thus leaving a greater number still unemployed.
The labor force population in January 2006 was registered at 35.2 million, this translates to a labor force participation rate (LFPR) of 63.8 percent. The total employment in January 2006 was 32.4 million, which results to national employment rate of 91.9 percent. Now the total unemployed persons numbered 2.8 million in January 2006, which translates to an unemployment rate of 8.1 percent. The incidence of underemployment went up to 21.3 percent in January 2006 from 16.1 percent a year ago.(NSCB).
In terms of income, even if there are about 63.8% unemployed Filipinos, they have meager income, not enough to sustain their needs. And because they have low income, they are remains unable to upgrade whatever assets they have, that is if they have one. It still remains that whoever has the resources, s/he is the one who can afford to acquire new assets, or properties that they can sell in times of need. Indeed it is difficult to attain development with equity in a country like our. However there’s a way to attain this.
In my point of view, maybe our country has to realign its priorities in terms of implementing economic and political reforms.
There is a great need for new policies that would address the country’s need to attain development with equity. The present government has to invest in people – this does not just mean about manpower or labor force, rather it includes especially the early childhood nutrition and development which translates to various issues – food security, sound population policy and better health services. Our country’s countryside still lacks hospitals, health workers, etc. Investment in people also includes quality education services – this does not just mean their college education but their early years in school because it is the basic foundation of every Filipino worker. The far flung areas of the countries still lack schools because the concentration remains in the center, there still are neglected areas and the government has to address this. Also it is important that the high school years until the college education are given utmost attention ensuring that the graduates are equipped with proper education and training in their field. It is a common reality that there maybe a hundred thousands graduates every year but not even 80% are hired because they fail to meet the standards of the company they are applying for even if it is in line with course. Also to consider providing safety nets to insure vulnerable groups from shocks especially because there are groups that needs such attention in cases of war, tragedies – since the country is infested with these kinds of atrocities and calamities; as well abuse cases on women and children.
There is also a need for expansion of access to justice, land, and economic infrastructure such as roads, power, water, sanitation and telecommunications – the basic infrastructures literally and figuratively. People need to be provided with proper justice thus, they should be taught with the law – they should know the law, to know their basic rights. They should also be provided with quality infrastructures not just a kind of road that needs to be repaired after months. The basic services for the people in the country should be good as well if not perfect.
Furthermore, there is also a need for a policy that promote fairness in financial, labor, and product markets, so that poor people have easier access to credit and jobs, and are not discriminated against in any market. In fairness to the present government, PGMA is extending her way to implement programs for poor people to have easier access to credit, but there is still a need for the more sound information dissemination among this group so they can avail of these opportunities and they should be taught as well how to manage it.
Equity in the international arena is also a central concern, and can play a powerful complementary role to domestic action. In a globally interconnected world, leveling the international playing fields, both economically and politically, will help domestic efforts to combine equity with efficiency and growth.

In my view, equity and economic efficiency as well as growth are complementary in the long run to reduce the poverty prevalence - together with the interdependence between the economic and political dimensions of development it also reinforces the importance of empowerment among people who resides in the country.

The country can still meet development with equity so long as the leaders aim for it and do the necessary policies to address the country’s problems not just their personal interests.

my day that never was

it's my birthday today, another year has passed and yet i still am at the ladder, climbing to the zenith of my dreams.

in a way, i remained really blessed because i have such a great mom, great dad, great sisters - last year, i had great friends now they no longer are :( some things really change. at least, i have learned now that sometimes it is not healthy to board with friends - not even with your closest ones. because even if you give all your best efforts - all your patience, sometimes there are things that you can no longer contain, maybe some of them are not really the "friends" we thought they are. too much for sad thoughts - maybe, time has finally come that we have to separate lives.

i haven't got my birthday wish yet. i hope i can have it before the month ends. i want to finally transfer to the condo and pay all my debts.

i hope. i pray.

the man

NATE BERCUS - my ideal man. i couldn't get pass through my obsession of nate for now - i really like him. i wish he has a clone here in our thir world land.

pissed off of myself

i am pissed off of myself because i still am longing for the impossible - my formerexcess(not the latest ex) and i hate it! i hate myself for being such a fool over him because he is attached...eeeww. but he is so yummy, argh...i hate me...i hate me...life sucks sometimes.